It’s important to have the talk in person because words are only a part of what goes into being really open and honest with another person.You can’t judge facial expressions or body language via text, and you can’t react organically to what is being said, because you have time to filter it through the lens of what if’s and maybes.This is a very good strategy for not getting hurt, because if you start off with no expectations your hopes can’t be crushed.
Sometimes we start important talks with an attitude of discovery.
We’re not really sure what we’re hoping to get out of it, we just feel like the talk needs to happen.
If you’re having sex, it is perfectly understandable and very responsible for you to want to know whether or not your partner is having sex with other people.
Even if you don’t want to be in an official relationship right now, it’s important to know what you may be exposing yourself to. If you’re not having sex, you can approach it from a “hey I’d like to know what to say when people ask me” line of logic.
A lot of times having a game plan and a strategy can make something that’s really scary a lot more ordinary.