(Yes, I typed that into multiple search engines, yielding many lists, but not much help.) So I sought the counsel of committed friends (and some acquaintances, and a few strangers) and asked: HOW DID YOU KNOW? I feel like knowing who’s ‘the one’ is just as much a life choice as a love choice.” — Colby It felt inevitable. I am normally SO shy about talking to strangers, so I had my earbuds in and my face turned to the window and my work in my lap — a wall around me. We were each other’s ideal audience.” — Gemma It was a choice.We’ve talked about dating, heartbreak and what to ask before you get married. “Maybe this is just semantics, but I say: Forget about ‘knowing.’ Perhaps some people experience that, but every time I thought I did, it turned out to be an illusion. The difference with my wife was having that ‘knowing’ feeling, but that was the one.
I remember welling up with tears just thinking about it. By realizing I already had what I could never give up.” — Ruby I still don’t know.
“Describing the moment I realized my relationship was ‘right’ is impossible because there are days when I’m still not entirely sure.
We’ve been together for eight years — through four apartments, two career changes and one wedding — and yet expressing authority on this subject isn’t something I do easily. I’m not sure you ever really know something as big as that.
“That said, I’ve always thought of love as an action, not a feeling.
“Unlike my previous relationships, I wasn’t haunted by deeper, nagging questions of whether or not I wanted to be with him.