For many, but not all internet daters, the aim is to meet someone new in the flesh. (2008) found that 51% of people had made a face-to-face date within one week and one month of receiving replies to their online overtures. It’s only after this stage is complete that people can get to know each other.
This first meeting is often treated by internet daters as the final part of the screening process (Whitty & Carr, 2006). Despite all the positive things the research has to say about internet dating, there’s no doubt that it can be unsatisfying and aversive. (2008) reported that they spent 7 times as long screening other people’s profiles and sending emails than they did interacting face-to-face on real dates.
In this respect online dating is no different from offline dating.
On average people are looking for someone about the same as themselves.
Although opposites don’t tend to attract, by its nature internet dating does encourage diverse matches.
The authors argue that it is changing the face of marriage by bring together types of people who previously never would have met.
Believe the internet dating companies and it’s all sweetness and light, with wedding bells ringing in the distance; believe the media scare stories and it’s all lying, cheating, perverted social misfits. Fortunately, now there’s enough research to suggest what’s really going on.