From psychologists to dating coaches, to pickup artists, to salesman to hackers, it’s a powerful piece of social engineering that is so prevalent across so many different approaches to attraction, that it is hard to ignore.Of course, we know attraction is created by a series of psychological triggers (and more importantly, by triggering negative associations) however push / pull is often seen in nearly every successful attraction method because it imbues you with a sense of exclusivity and power whilst still keeping the other party interested by hinting at your interest in them.
Alternatively, he’s demonstrating a strong ‘push’ to the woman on the right by barely acknowledging her at all. Even if they did, you knew it was given away too easily, therefore, worthless or seen as less authentic or valued.
When they do reward you, though, you feel like you’re basking in the sunlight of their praise, it was earned and didn’t come easily, therefore it is more valued and has a deeper emotional resonance.
If you give it a taste of what it wants but never let it have the whole thing it will remain in your control.
However, once you give the entire piece of twine to the cat it will play with it for a few seconds, enjoy it and then realize the hunt is over and move on.
It’s more about showing indifference and playing hard to get, rather than offending people or seeming arrogant.