I feel like I have nowhere to feel comfortable when I’m there. You don’t have to wait until you move in together to bring this up, if you feel uncomfortable in her house right now, then it’s an issue.
You say you love this woman, so kindly and honestly bring this issue to her attention.
At this point, I don’t want to fuel the fire or ever engage again, but I’m stumped—because she seems excited to have a dead horse to beat.
A: Good Lord, this woman is grimly determined to be personally victimized by the color blue.
Do not apologize again, and do not entertain their future complaints.