I know he is dependent on me for his social and family life, not to mention finances.
I want to continue to have him as a friend, and will continue to help him.
Still others refuse to accept the possibility that they may have AS – and are offended when the issue is raised. Some males with AS may have become defensive as years have passed and are difficult to confront or reason with.
I have dropped my non-AS 'friends' over the years as I was unable to meet their expectations that I should change to be more like them.
They never tried to understand me, yet expected ME to understand THEM!
In an effort to save face and protect their fragile self-esteem, these males may blame others for things that they should take responsibility for themselves. People around them assume that they are simply ill-tempered or prefer their own company. Many AS males often desire friends, but may also be considered loners.
Typically they have a much lower capacity for social interaction than a “typical” man. Many AS men have learned to lie to help them cope with life.
Notice I said “traits” – not “character flaws.” We’re talking about symptoms that come with having the disorder.