C., I stayed overnight with one of my closest friends and her boyfriend.
Karen and Ben* had moved in together a few months before, and it was the first time I was seeing their new place — their tiny indoor herb garden, the giant television cabinet they’d built together, the shared bedroom closet overflowing with suit jackets and frilly dresses.
Playing matchmaker among your friends can feel totally great, but unfortunately, it can also be super uncomfortable when two of your close friends start dating because it will inevitably change all your friendships. You might feel jealous or territorial of one or both of their time and company. Once, my best friend and a really close guy friend started dating.
(Seriously, are these two not yelling at each other?
) They've got their own multitude of things to work out and adjust to, but you know who's taking it really hard? Schmidt is having Nick-based text-message withdrawal, Winston is channeling his anxiety into an obsession puzzles, and neither of them are thrilled that they have to be best friends now.
You should just get used to the idea of them hanging out without you and getting closer without you. Friendships won’t always stay the same over time – they evolve and change just like any other relationship.
If you guys are truly all friends, you’ll be able to work around this stuff and stay friends.
There was the tall Israeli man who stopped returning my texts after we’d been dating for about a month.