“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates?
On the other side I found a great deal of misrepresentation of what courtship proponents believe.
I remember one respected Reformed Baptist pastor, in a series on Christian dating, insisting that the best example in the Bible of what courtship adherents propose was Samson, but they were unwilling to admit it because of the dire results.
“The Greatest Generation was encouraged to date and discouraged from going steady while in middle school.” & “Do what your grandparents did and go out on dates with lots of different people with any of them.” We can never ensure that our children’s hearts will never be broken, but teaching them not to give their heart to someone whose only commitment to them is to keep hanging around as long as they make them happy will indeed prevent a great deal.
Another assumption of the article is that courtship does not enable a person to learn what kind of spouse they will be compatible with, and the best way to know who you are compatible with is to date a large number of people.
I have three adult sons, and daughters who are 17 & 18, so I’ve had to give the subject a lot of thought.