How long should you , says it's hard to put a number on it—but you'll probably want to wait at least a month before jumping back into the dating pool again."Most people need a month or two to process the breakup, to mourn, and to integrate lessons before jumping back in if they were in a fairly serious relationship," she says.If you dated someone for a year or more, you may need three to four months.You may even decide after 6 months that you don’t want to pursue a friendship with your ex, but if you do you should have perspective on the situation at least. When you meet, meet carefully Let’s say you’ve had your cooling off period, and it still seems a good idea to cultivate a friendship with your ex – where do you go?
When it comes to post-breakup dating, there are two main philosophies: One is that, if you date right after a breakup, you're rebounding, which is unhealthy.
Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?
Feelings cannot be turned off like a light switch – whether those feelings are ones of love or anger, they need time to help bring them into perspective.
It sounds like a cliché, but time really is a great healer.
For example, dinner and drinks alone is probably a very bad idea – a few too many glasses of wine and you could end up right back where you started.