You may end up each needing individual therapy and couples therapy to save your marriage.You both need to find out why she has withdrawn from you and why you have tolerated it for so long.She even tells me I am bugging her when I try to kiss her. Signed: Married and Lonely This is a very serious problem and I am glad you wrote to me about it.
These are not in any particular order, they are just reasons I have run into in my practice. In most cases, there is more than one underlying cause to the prolem, so her reasons are probably a combination of some of the examples below: Unless you are willing to live with the way thing are, then it is time to make some decisions and some changes.
Ideally, you and your wife are both invested in this marriage and will want to work it out.
You need to first evaluate the situation for yourself, then try to communicate with your wife, and finally come up with a resolution that is acceptable to both of you.
I am surprised that you have allowed this to continue for three years before you have reached out and asked someone.
Then you must find out whether or not you are willing to live with her.