A survivor myself, I do not feel delegitimized by another woman being told that being forced to have sex at gunpoint was not her fault.Anytime the blame for sexual assault is placed exactly where it belongs — on the shoulders of the person who made the choice to rape — all victims win.
Since I was young and inexperienced, I didn't question them.
I figured any STIs that could be transmitted through oral must not be that bad or spreadable, or else people would be more careful.
But if a woman had been drinking or using drugs, was in a dangerous area or has no marks, the blame slowly starts to shift from perpetrator to victim.
Some people have so many misconceptions stacked against them that they are seen as unrapeable.
Adding money to plans for a sexual encounter does not erase either party’s right to consent.