Yes, it’s a sexist, self-defeating system, but Italians (both men and women) have often argued to me that it’s just so romantic.
Even if you’re saying something cheesy, do it with bravado, in good fun and with a twinkle in your eye, and your imperfect accent and bewildered foreigner status may just work in your favor.
Recall that many Italian adjectives are modified according to gender; here I denote this with .
Italian men are expected to pursue and to make a spectacle of their interest over a long period of time (months, even!
) during which time women are expected to be “good” and rebuff the advances.
Italians love to chat and love it when foreigners speak (or even mangle) their language.