This is the online dating dilemma that faces MILLIONS of people each day.
If I’m a 5’4” man, I know that it’s going to be hard to get a date if I tell the truth.
In their attempts to be honest (but not scare off men), women will click on descriptors like “a few pounds extra”, “curvy”, or “voluptuous”. Men have learned to mistrust these body types, and therefore only look at women who are “firm and toned”, “slim/slender”, or “athletic”. Do everything 25% better and it can make a remarkable difference in your life.
And when the slightly overweight woman shows up on a date with a man who was expecting “athletic”, both parties are in for a night of disappointment. First of all, I think that’s a problem that’s more in your head than in reality. Still, no matter how much rebranding we do, life is still not going to be fair.
All we can do is tackle this confidently, and not get too thrown by the many bumps in the road.
The man who wants you is going to WANT a curvy girl.
I swear to God, I have heard this complaint every single day for nearly a decade. So let’s play the game I play with my clients on the phone: : Then why would you expect the percentage to be any higher online?