I started out with a “try anything” approach, but I soon realized that there were “anythings” out there that I had no interest in trying. In my first few encounters, I would easily settle in and make myself comfortable as though it was a marriage.It was a known and safe place for me, but not exactly an ideal way to date. Learn to find comfort in the process and the path of dating, rather than being focused on a destination.
The following are my suggestions for your ten commandments of dating after divorce.
One: Your “Must Haves”Take some time to generate this list; do not assume what it contains.
Once you have your lists generated, keep them handy and allow them to be modified or updated as you date and meet new people. Try to enter every encounter with an open and curious mind, ready to receive the lessons to come.
They are not set in stone, but they are also not be ignored, especially if you find yourself in the biochemical throes of love lust. That insufferably cute and perfect couple at the park is either in the biochemical throws of lust or has another side to their relationship that you do not see. On some dates, you might learn about someone else, some you may learn about yourself, and yet others you may learn about the intricacies of being a private pilot for a billionaire (yup, true story there).
You may have lost other friends in the deal or had the nature of friendships slip and slide away.