From there, you might both decide that dinner is the best option. Guys who weren't popular in high school make excellent boyfriends. Don't go to that super-trendy night spot filled with icy women in towering heels and snarky men in shiny shirts.
After the braces come off and the acne clears up, you're left with a smart, nice-looking man who on some level will always feel extremely grateful to have a girlfriend. So, read a couple of good science-fiction books -- or just rent The Lord of the Rings. If you want to find a nice, laid-back guy, go to a bar that has sawdust on the floor and bowling trophies on the walls.
Better yet, join a softball league -- you're sure to find a wide array of physically fit boys of summer. You'll find them right up on stage: clusters of men, pouring their hearts out, trying to impress you. Tortured artists are dazzling on stage, but can be a drag in real life. "Strike up a conversation around your mutual business interests, then ask 'How did you get to where you are today?
On the other hand, a nice middle manager (during the day) indulging in some innocent rock-star fantasies (by night) could be just the ticket. ' You'll learn about his path of life so far, including education and goals," says Nina Atwood, author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996).
But if he makes you laugh, you may be willing to put up with the occasional bout of insecurity. Even if you know nothing about the game, you can still enjoy sitting outside on a summer night with a bag of peanuts and a hot dog.
And breaking the ice is easy: A simple "Your routine was hilarious" (preceded, of course, by hearty laughter) should do the trick. The beer line should be packed with fans; so get behind a cute one and ask him about his favorite team, advises a 39-year-old from Vancouver. Next Saturday night take a bunch of your girlfriends to a nightclub that hosts local bands. If you've been meaning to do some meet-and-greets as a way of boosting your career, here's some added incentive: Business conferences and seminars are filled with smart, ambitious men with whom you can talk shop.
The big drawback of music clubs, of course, is that the noise level can make it hard to hold a conversation. Just be sure to check his left hand for a ring or tell-tale tan line. While the Red Cross does not release statistical data on the male/female ratio of blood donors, any guy who would give up his own body fluids to help out a stranger has got to be a quality date.