" Young guy: "I'm into skateboarding and hanging out with my dog, Spike." You: "Awesome! Calling it "making love" or "sleeping with" is not only old-fashioned; it could mean you're fooling yourself about the "relationship." One thing you shouldn't fool yourself about, even in your fantasies: You still have to make sure he uses a condom. Alas, even Demi and Ashton didn't live happily ever after.Sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise, especially among the middle-aged who may think they no longer need protection. The cougar-cub liaison can be great for the ego, for fun, for adventure, but you're not going to bring this guy home to your parents or, God forbid, your kids.
At our age, we've already seen the other side of forever.
Stripped of our illusions, honest about our intentions, we're now free to love the one we're with — and maybe his roommate tomorrow.
By the way: Don't be surprised to find your young man similarly shaved (except for maybe his face). Resist the impulse to listen too sympathetically to his problems, to warn him that he really shouldn't be smoking or drinking so much, to tell him how he might rev up his career or do better in school (yikes), much less to give him too-explicit directions in the romance arena.
And by all means, don't gasp if you notice that he's got a heart manscaped into his chest hair. Remember those nasty girls at your junior high dances, who wore too much makeup and made out in public with all the boys? Forget about playing hard to get or feeling like you have to follow "The Rules" in order to bag a man. And, whatever you do, never ever tell him to clean up his room. Younger men may have less flab, more stamina and a better appreciation for strong women than their older counterparts, but they're exactly like guys your age in one way: They love attention.
So a lady never shows so much as a hint of lingerie lace?