My SO and I are both in the legal field and want to practice the same kind of law in the same city.Our resumes mirror each other’s in a lot of ways, and I can’t help but feel the tension sometimes.No matter how much a guy or girl is inundated with work, they are hardly likely to be too busy to give you a call during a break or meet you for a quick lunch.
To know this for sure, ask yourself if it has now been more than a few weeks in a row that your date has been unavailable.
Whenever you ask him/her if you both can get together, does your partner always say that he/she has got an open house, or appointment, or convention going on.
I will say, though, that in that class — the high-achieving man — it was easiest to recognize when someone had decided it was Time to Get Married because they were much more intense on a first date, and much more direct when they weren’t interested (which actually was appreciated).
(As always, apologies in advance for every time I say “he” or “the guy” — I really just mean the person you’re dating.) It’s important to recognize that there are different levels of togetherness, and not every long-term boyfriend or girlfriend will be a true partner.
If you find yourself in such a situation, it is always better to opt out and look for someone with whom you will come first.