To deal, try extending the conversations you do have a little each time, or taking some sort of action yourself to show that you're interested.
It doesn't have to be anything big, just a little sign that you like hanging out with them and wouldn't mind doing it some more.
I don't think most women want that either, and as we become more successful in the workplace, I can hardly imagine we'd want to come home to an aggressive, hard-headed, controlling man.
Oftentimes, I think women lead with their accomplishments, as if their bona fides alone will attract a man, and I don't necessarily think that approach works.
Some people opine that men are less attracted to a woman who is on an equal or higher level when it comes to matters of the pocketbook or education, and that a successful woman should dumb herself down to get a man.