Hardware stores are like breeding grounds for unauthorized advice givers!
Even when I go in knowing exactly what I want and where it’s located, some well-meaning male customer is likely to stop me because he thinks, “you look like you need help.” Though things like this most often happen to people who aren’t male, presuming someone is ignorant about a given topic before you’ve even .
Sometimes misogynistic behaviors are super blatant and recognizable, and other times they take on more subtle hues that pop up unexpectedly in our daily interactions.
While this term was coined specifically in relation to the subway car environment, I feel it can be applied to all sorts of scenarios: men who leave piles of their personal shit everywhere in shared living environments, men who leave unfinished projects spread out across designated work stations they might share with their co-workers, and so on.
In my opinion, the definition of a manspreader can be extended to any dude who – by virtue of the amount of physical space he is taking up with his physical body or personal items – makes it impossible for anyone else to utilize a space that they also have equal claim to.
This can really leave a person feeling hurt, used and uncared for.
The unconscious expectation that men often have regarding this one-sided caretaker dynamic is explicitly rooted in misogyny.
The implication and underlying message that gets communicated through manspreading is that you feel a sense of ownership and entitlement over the space.